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hat is it about surprises that everyone loves? When I was little, the greatest surprise I ever received was a trip to Disney World. Anyone who knows me and my unhealthy obsession with the theme park understands the importance of that memory. Now grown, my taste for surprises has become a bit more adult. Though I still like little things such as flowers in my room when I come home from school or coffee from a friend while studying in the library, very few things can compare to spontaneous sex.
It breaks up the monotony of everyday life. Your daily routine is jolted and enlivened. That truly is the key behind spontaneous sex. Sex can easily get boring. The worst is when it settles into a schedule. It's unsatisfying to be caught in a routine of turning the lights off, locking the door, removing clothes, with minimal foreplay followed by seven short minutes in heaven. Sex becomes mechanical without passion. Nothing is worse than perfunctory hook-ups.
Both guys and girls agree that unexpected sex is hot. It eliminates the burden of initiating sex on your partner, which is a plus with guys who usually have to work hard for their reward. Becoming a victim to your partner's uncontrollable urges is sexy. It's fun to lose control and have the other person be the boss. If you're the person initiating the hook up, it is just as pleasurable to be in charge and have a kinky sense of power over your partner.
Spontaneity, both sexually and non-sexually, is important in a relationship. The downfall of many relationships is repetitiveness. Break up the routine of Subway for dinner by going downtown or Everybody Loves Raymond reruns with an indie movie at the Charles Theatre. The relationship is really struggling when sex becomes boring and predictable. It's time to change things up before your partner looks for something new.
A quick warning: surprise sex is not always appropriate. Don't be stunned if you are turned down once in a blue moon. Be considerate when planning a sneak attack on your partner. Having your REM cycle interrupted by your partner's roaming hands is not romantic, so don't wake your partner up at 3 a.m. to get frisky. Make sure your partner is comfortable in his surroundings. Some public places, such as taxicabs, are not always the best places to become intimate. If he is trying to focus on something important, like writing his paper or the World Cup game, don't interrupt him. Or at least wait for the commercials.
The importance of surprise sex lies in using force; the thrill exists in the manipulation of power. The initiator gets off from satisfying their partner and releasing their sexual urges while the victim enjoys the pleasures of being dominated. Don't be afraid to get a little rough, pinning the person to the wall, bed, couch, lab bench, etc. You'll drive your partner wild by preventing them from doing any work. The restrained sexual energy will soon explode as your partner takes over intensifying the action even more. Losing your inhibitions and surrendering to animal instincts is a satisfying experience.
Planning spontaneous sex attacks is not difficult, but it requires timing. One of the best moments to surprise your partner is in the shower. After just returning from a run in the humidity of July weather, you're dying to shower before dinner. You're reaching for the shampoo when the shower curtain opens and suddenly you're not alone anymore. Sex in the shower is one of the greatest pleasures in life. It's relaxing, sensual and exciting. It's even better to begin in the shower and then progress to the bedroom.
Another opportunity to surprise your partner can be found in the daily routine. For example: Every Tuesday you're tired and overworked with class, lab and studying at the library. Your only motivation is the new episode of Nip/Tuck, which you routinely watch with your partner before heading back down to C-level. You enter their apartment and instead of the expected quick peck on the lips, you melt into a passionate lustful kiss. In the end, you both lie in bed watching TV. Nothing is better than watching Nip/Tuck naked and satisfied.
Be creative with your timing and look for any opportunity. Make a move while waiting for laundry to finish or dinner to heat up. Throw the boring schedule out the window and be spontaneous. The more random you make it, the more electrifying it will be.
