We all understand Hopkins is an academically demanding school, but why is it such a socially and sexually prude school as well? We’re stressed out of our minds with work, research and applications, yes, but isn’t that the best justification to relax and enjoy ourselves when we get free time? And guess what is one of the best ways to physically and mentally relax? Sex.
There, I said it. Sex. For everyone’s sake we all need to relax and start feeling comfortable with ourselves and whomever we’re sleeping with about sex. It will make the days a little more relaxing and the sex a whole lot better.
Whenever I hear men and women talking about how some lover was terrible in bed, I can’t help but wonder who’s to blame for that. We would all love to think that we’re incredible in bed and that it was entirely our partner’s fault the sex was bad, but that’s rarely the case.
Most of the time I think people were bad together, not individually, where the two weren’t relaxed and were too awkward to actually enjoy it. Luckily, there’s a pretty common solution to the problem: just figure out a way to be comfortable with whomever you’re sleeping with. A lot of common sexual complaints could be remedied if the two people were just open and relaxed with each other.
So cast aside the poorly made drinks from Maxie’s or PJ’s that boosted your confidence enough to have sex with someone. Besides, you’re going to run into a few issues with “blood flow,” tiredness and a massive hangover the next morning if it actually takes 10 drinks for you to sleep with someone.
Having a few drinks is an easy, common but ultimately superficial remedy to sexual awkwardness here at Hopkins and everywhere else.
It might suffice in a few situations, but people shouldn’t have to drink to feel comfortable enough to have sex. If Hopkins students would stop thinking about the Schrodinger or Nernst equation for a second and actually acknowledge their sexuality we could actually enjoy our four years here.
If sex is ultimately better when both people are relaxed and comfortable with each other, why be uptight and tense?
Even if a guy has the best moves in the world and knows how to hit every spot every time, a woman will never have an orgasm if she’s tense or nervous. Conversely, if it’s impossible for a woman to climax when tense, it’s all too easy for men to.
When guys are nervous or tense they tend to finish quicker, so they need to just relax and realize there’s a pretty simply solution if the first time you have sex doesn’t last long enough. JUST DO IT AGAIN! Not only do guys last longer the second time around, but you’re having sex twice instead of once (win win?).
And if Hopkins women become comfortable enough to tell their mediocre lovers what they like and what really does it for them, there’s a good chance their partners will become great lovers over time.
It might be true experience in bed that lends lovers a sense of what their previous partners might have liked, but that’s what made previous partners twist with pleasure! Everyone’s unique in what they do and don’t enjoy, so why not take the guesswork out and just hint or tell each other what you like?
So instead of having a woman fake an orgasm or settling for mediocre and tense sex, why don’t people just relax and enjoy sex? We’re in college — if you don’t relax and enjoy sex now when are you going to? Think about it.
