2008 Woodie Awards
Don't make a move too soon: Make an investment
Issue date: 11/20/08
The safer the investment, the less the payoff: a commonly held maxim in the financial world. Invest with the long-term in mind, in which case the appeal of the high-risk, high-profit options wane compared to that of the security and reliability of the surefires. No drama.
The catch is that these opportunities do not provide the amount of satisfaction that others do. Or so it is thought.
Let us take this into the social world. All over, people are leaving their homes and entering places of social interest (say, college, for one), with prospective love things surrounding. They may get hit on by some, approached by others and eventually go home with one (or more).
But this is a high-profit higher-risk investment. It may have paid off this time, but it doesn't always, and certainly did not for the others who attempted, without the payback.
So, is it worth the risk?
Well, the option to not go all-in offers ... what? An acquaintance? How fun is that? I thought this was a sex column?
I know; I know, but read me out: You, reading this, are most likely in college. Now, an acquaintance in college is not a non-sexual small talk passerby. You will probably see the acquaintance often enough to help influence the relationship you build.
(S)he will appreciate that you were not offering the same thing everyone else does: sex. Girls in particular are offered sex so often that their default response is rejection. By taking sex out of the initial proposition, you increase the probability of intimacy (physical and otherwise) later on.
The best way to get what you want is to act like you already have it. This does not mean you take it for granted; you must still appreciate whatever it is, but the behavior attracts the environment. If people throw themselves at you every turn, are you going to make a rush for any one person?
Desperation kills attraction. How can sexual interests chase you if never let up chasing them? Allow room for air, and they can breathe. Comfort breeds intimacy.
The catch is that these opportunities do not provide the amount of satisfaction that others do. Or so it is thought.
Let us take this into the social world. All over, people are leaving their homes and entering places of social interest (say, college, for one), with prospective love things surrounding. They may get hit on by some, approached by others and eventually go home with one (or more).
But this is a high-profit higher-risk investment. It may have paid off this time, but it doesn't always, and certainly did not for the others who attempted, without the payback.
So, is it worth the risk?
Well, the option to not go all-in offers ... what? An acquaintance? How fun is that? I thought this was a sex column?
I know; I know, but read me out: You, reading this, are most likely in college. Now, an acquaintance in college is not a non-sexual small talk passerby. You will probably see the acquaintance often enough to help influence the relationship you build.
(S)he will appreciate that you were not offering the same thing everyone else does: sex. Girls in particular are offered sex so often that their default response is rejection. By taking sex out of the initial proposition, you increase the probability of intimacy (physical and otherwise) later on.
The best way to get what you want is to act like you already have it. This does not mean you take it for granted; you must still appreciate whatever it is, but the behavior attracts the environment. If people throw themselves at you every turn, are you going to make a rush for any one person?
Desperation kills attraction. How can sexual interests chase you if never let up chasing them? Allow room for air, and they can breathe. Comfort breeds intimacy.
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