Learn to push your partner's most sensitive buttons in bed

By: Pierce Delahunt

Posted: 10/9/08

Got your school books? Time for an anatomy lesson.

The brain does all different kinds of things. Especially among different people. Sometimes, we get lucky and can detect patterns in easily defined groups of people. For instance, Gyno-americans have about 17 parts of the brain dedicated to non-verbal communication. Meaning tonality, body language and basically sniffing out your attitude and thoughts.

Guys have five. I know. Like what the f---? (Incidentally, this is also why psychics are predominantly women, because they can read people very well, but sometimes have no idea they are relying on their social skills, rather than telepathic phenomena).

Bottom line is, girls are, statistically, predisposed to be better at reading people than guys. I know it sucks, but the good news is that this is a skill, and like all skills, it can be learned. They do not make neuroplasticity for nothing, know what I mean?

For this reason, it is important to get any "noise" out of your head. Noise is anything not tuned to the frequency you consciously choose, like, "I really like you, and I am hoping we can date," or, "I would totally have sex with you right now," (that choice is up to you). So, if you decide one of these, and you are thinking, "Oh s--t, I bet I am balding," that thought needs to go. Clear your mind. Mind cleared? Good. Now for some fun.

The penis and vagina have about the same number of nerve endings in them (I think about 8,000), but they are more concentrated in the vagina (particularly the clitoris), as it is smaller. This means increased sensation, NOT, necessarily, increased pleasure. Because it is more sensitive, you do not want to tangle with it without testing the waters. Rub the area around it first, ask her pelvis for permission.

Once her pelvis is warmed up, so warm will be her vajay-jay, allowing you a warm welcome. But even at this point the clitoris is far too sensitive for some Gyno-Americans, meaning you get to play with the clitoral hood.

Now the clitoris, at the top of the vagina (no worries, I know you knew), has on top of it the clitoral hood, the female foreskin. This feels good too, and is not so sensitive to be painful (once lubricated - use foreplay), so play with it. You can even rub the clitoris with the clitoral hood (talk about a taste of your own!)

The clitoris actually extends into the vagina, as it is a whole organ, so you do not have to limit yourself. Assuming the comfort of your partner-in-sex, dig deep. This varies, of course, from girl to girl. If you have an "inside girl," then you probably have a girl in touch with her G-Spot. The size of this thing varies, and yes, not every girl has been shown to have it.

The good news is that its area inside the vagina is surrounded by clitoral tissue, so it will still feel good. Anyway, if you insert your fingers (not too far, about two joints in, though this varies), and push up, you will be stroking the area. This is why that "Come Here" gesture works so well.

And the more excited things become, the more blood gets flowing, increasing the size of everything (just like men!), which allows for more fishing around.

It is important to remember that the G-Spot is not a button or a scratch & sniff. To get this area going, the Gyno-American should already be very aroused (again, foreplay, please remember this), in which case it is still best to massage the entire area, rather than the most sensitive spot.

Once you both are in the mood and connected, you can do all kinds of things (the beckoning motion, the side to side, the tapping, etc). When starting to stimulate this area specifically, use firmness, but use it alternately with softness. Remember stimulation is change, so switch things up throughout the course of the action.

Now time for an area we can all share. The grundle, taint, or place between your pisser and your s---ter, is "more scientifically" called the perineum, and is a great spot for stimulation. While down there, thrusting, stroking or lapping it up, give the little thing some attention.

As always, start gently. Eventually, this will create amazing pleasure. Do not overdo this, however. At least not every time. Rub around the area while going at it, but if you wait until your love thing is on the brink, then rubbing this area is almost sure to start her buzzer.